When When Quiet Isn’t Calm: Understanding Hidden Emotions in You and Your Horse
About this episode
This episode explores how early emotional messages affect both humans and horses, emphasizing the importance of emotional expression and trust.
There are certain phrases that stay with us, aren’t there? The ones we heard as children, sometimes said in jest, sometimes in frustration, that quietly shape how we deal with our emotions long after the moment has passed. In this episode of Over the Oxer, I share a couple that stayed with me growing up, including one involving the M6 motorway 🙈, and how those seemingly throwaway comments can teach us to either brush things off or keep everything bottled up. Not everyone processes emotion in the same way. Some of us let things pass straight through. Others learn, often without realising, to hold it all in, to stay quiet, to stay “good”, to not make a fuss. Over time, that can build into something much bigger beneath the surface. If you have ever wondered why a calm, steady horse suddenly starts to spook, nap or react in ways you did not expect, we explore that too. What if that shift is not something going wrong, but something finally going right? What if it is a sign of trust? This episode gently connects the dots between our own emotional habits and what we see in our horses, especially those “quiet” types who may simply not have felt safe enough to express themselves before…
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