The Question Nobody Asks High Performers: Who Motivates the Motivator? | Craig Harper

About this episode

Craig Harper shares his struggles with loneliness and the challenges of being a performance coach in this candid conversation.

The kind of person who's been helping others perform better for 40 years doesn't usually admit they're struggling. Craig Harper did. His dad is in the hospital. The drive is five hours return. The calls from clients still come. And somewhere in the middle of all of it, one of Australia's most recognised performance coaches said something he'd never said publicly before. That he's lonely. This conversation is for anyone who gives more than they get. Who holds it together at work and unravels at home. Who knows exactly what to tell others and struggles to apply it to themselves. Craig doesn't have a tidy answer here. But he does have hard-won perspective on where your energy actually goes, who you let close enough to tell the truth to, and what it takes to keep showing up when life gets genuinely heavy. Honest, uncomfortable, and worth your time. 0:00 — Who motivates the motivator? Craig Harper on why this is the question helpers never get asked. 1:30 — "I'm feeling pretty shit, to be honest, mate." How this conversation started. 2:07 — Craig says publicly for the first time: "Sometimes I feel really lonely." 5:34 — Mum and dad at 87. What's actually been going on behind the…

People in this episode

Host: Andrew May

Guest: Craig Harper

Topics covered

• motivation
• loneliness
• performance coaching
• mental health
• self-care
• connection

Keywords

• motivation
• performance
• loneliness
• mental health
• self-improvement
• coaching
• energy management

Mentioned in this episode

Places: Australia

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