E260: How To Orgasm Like A Man: Breaking The Blocks That Keep Women Stuck

E260: How To Orgasm Like A Man: Breaking The Blocks That Keep Women Stuck

From Pillow Talks by Vanessa & Xander Marin

May 14, 2026 · 1h 5m

About this episode

This episode discusses how women can approach their pleasure with the same confidence as men, addressing mental blocks and techniques for achieving orgasm.

For a lot of women, orgasm feels like this mysterious thing that either happens or it doesn't. Nobody taught you how. And somewhere along the way, you picked up the idea that your pleasure is complicated, too demanding, or just... less important. But here's what we want you to hear: that's NOT true. In this episode, we reframe the whole conversation, asking what it would look like if women approached their own pleasure with the same expectation men do. No apology, no overthinking, no putting everyone else first. 💛 In this episode, you'll hear: The mental blocks that pull women out of the moment, from body distraction and to-do list thinking to feeling awkward or selfish for focusing on your own pleasure at all. The technique gaps no one ever filled in, including what to do if you've never had an orgasm, if you can only get there through oral, or you can get there on your own but not with a partner. The relational stuff that makes it even harder — worrying about how you smell or taste, not knowing how to redirect a partner without hurting his feelings, and the faking cycle that's been going on so long you don't even know how to stop. How to think like a man during sex and what it…

People in this episode

Hosts: Vanessa Marin, Xander Marin

Topics covered

  • orgasm
  • women's pleasure
  • mental blocks
  • sexuality
  • relationships
  • self-advocacy

Keywords

  • orgasm
  • women's pleasure
  • sexual health
  • mental blocks
  • self-advocacy
  • relationships
  • sexual techniques

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