If you have closed your heart, he is still controlling your life! Love & Pleasure after Trauma for Women

About this episode

In this episode, Patricia discusses overcoming trauma and opening up to love and pleasure while maintaining self-trust and boundaries.

Have you been telling yourself you have high standards, but underneath that is the fear of getting hurt again? In this episode, I share my own journey from a DV marriage through hyper-independence, high-functioning and emotional armour, to realising the men who hurt me were still controlling my life. I talk about the difference between protective walls and boundaries, what somatic self-trust actually changes, and how women can open up to love and pleasure after trauma without abandoning themselves. Start here: ⁠https://pleasurelit.com⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ You are functioning, but you are not feeling You became the strong one early. The capable one. The good girl. It kept you safe, maybe even loved. And now you cannot stop. You hold it all together, your life, career, motherhood, relationships. You keep pushing, managing, people pleasing. A life on autopilot. Underneath all of it, you ask yourself: is this really it? Your mind rarely stops, your sleep is broken and your digestion is off. You move from one thing to the next and rest makes you uncomfortable. Your nervous system is stuck in a survival state. Your body has forgotten how to feel safe, how to soften, to receive, how to feel good. What…

People in this episode

Host: Patricia

Topics covered

• trauma
• love
• pleasure
• self-trust
• boundaries
• women's health

Keywords

• trauma recovery
• somatic pleasure
• emotional armor
• high standards
• women empowerment

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