265: Why You Keep Making the Wrong Choices in Your Relationship with Sammar Shabir

About this episode

The episode discusses how childhood attachment influences adult relationships and the patterns that lead to repeated poor choices in love.

Ever notice how you know better… but still find yourself choosing the same kind of relationship over and over again? One minute you’re clear on your standards, and the next you’re drawn to something that feels familiar but leaves you questioning yourself. In this episode, I’m joined by Sammar Shabir — author of The Barred Window, Senior Certified Professional Life Coach, and founder of Rewrite with Sammar. Her work explores identity, self-concept, and how our early attachments shape the relationships we step into as adults. Together, we unpack how childhood attachment influences adult love, why certain situations keep repeating even when you’re aware of them, and what might really be driving the behaviors you don’t fully understand yet. Episode Resources ✨ Take the Love Blocks Quiz — uncover the hidden pattern shaping who you choose, what you tolerate, and why love can keep repeating the same cycle. In this episode, we explore: ✨ How childhood attachment shapes who you’re drawn to ✨ Why familiar patterns can feel hard to break ✨ The deeper reason you may tolerate less than you deserve ✨ How identity and self-concept influence your relationships If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why…

People in this episode

Host: Sanaiyah Gurnamal

Guest: Sammar Shabir

Topics covered

• relationship choices
• childhood attachment
• self-concept
• patterns in relationships
• identity

Keywords

• relationship patterns
• attachment theory
• self-improvement
• love blocks
• identity

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: The Barred Window

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