The First Ever Extrovert-Introvert Cage Match

About this episode

A roundtable discussion featuring extroverts and introverts airing their grievances about each other.

The case of the introverts and extroverts who love each other, but sometimes can't stand each other. Why do some friends need constant contact, while others need three to five business days to text back? Why does one person’s “fun hang” feel like torture to another? And why does it hurt so much when the people we love have different ideas of what connection should look like? In this special Proxy conversation, Yowei brings together comedian Aparna Nancherla, extrovert Ryan Letts, and introvert-extrovert expert Jennifer Kahnweiler for a historic summit on introvert-extrovert relations. Together, they investigate the tiny social mismatches that can make friendship feel impossible: who reaches out, who disappears, who makes too much eye contact, who doesn't make enough, and why we all secretly suspect we're too much, or not enough. From the episode: — Aparna Nancherla — wrote Unreliable Narrator and is on Instagram @aparnapkin : www.aparnacomedy.com — Ryan Letts — runs Pando Integration Coaching — Jennifer Kahnweiler — hosts Introvert Ally and wrote The Genius of Opposites : www.jenniferkahnweiler.com New to Proxy? Try Bisexual Wife Guy for a classic case, or Yowei Can't Speak Bro…

People in this episode

Host: Yowei Shaw

Guests: Aparna Nancherla, Ryan Letts, Jennifer Kahnweiler

Topics covered

• extroversion
• introversion
• relationships
• grievances
• comedy

Keywords

• extrovert
• introvert
• cage match
• roundtable
• grievances

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Pando Integration Coaching, Introvert Ally

Books & works: Unreliable Narrator, The Genius of Opposites

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