‘You Can’t Do This’ Is NOT A Boundary

‘You Can’t Do This’ Is NOT A Boundary

From Relationship Advice by Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich

May 28, 2026 · 43 min

About this episode

The episode discusses the true nature of boundaries and how to communicate them effectively.

If there is one thing to know about boundaries, it is that a boundary is not about what you need somebody else to do. It is about what you are going to do in response to somebody else’s behavior. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren discuss boundaries from a psychotherapeutic lens and give tools for how to better communicate boundaries. Main Talking Points: Our bodies are the indicator for when we need to set boundaries. Boundaries exist on a continuum, not as binary bookends. Communication of boundaries should be specific to the prioritized need. We should approach boundaries with grace, generosity, and curiosity. Give Me Discounts! Kiwi Fodzyme - Get 30% off your first order! Rythm - Get 15% off your first month + free shipping! Tanasi - Use code “relationship" for 25% off your first order! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People in this episode

Hosts: Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, Cayla Bozovich

Topics covered

  • boundaries
  • communication
  • psychotherapy
  • self-awareness
  • relationships

Keywords

  • boundaries
  • communication
  • psychotherapy
  • self-care
  • relationships
  • emotional health

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