393. You Can Become Securely Attached (Even If You Didn’t Start Out That Way)
About this episode
Dr. Abby Medcalf discusses how individuals can develop earned secure attachment despite having an insecure attachment style.
You've taken the quiz and you've read the books, so you know your attachment style. But last night your partner said, "We need to talk," and your whole body went off like a car alarm. That anxiety or panic is an insecure attachment style doing its thing. So, the real question is: can you actually change it? And the real answer is yes, you can. It's called earned secure attachment; it's real, and researchers have been studying it for decades. Today you'll learn what earned secure attachment really is, the three things earned secure attachment is not, and the five tools to start building it this week. ____________________________ Full blog and show note: https://abbymedcalf.com/earned-secure-attachment Grab Your Repair Speed Baseline: How long does it take you to come back: https://abbymedcalf.com/repair-speed-baseline Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack You'll get... ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby _________ Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week…
People in this episode
Host: Dr. Abby Medcalf
Topics covered
- attachment styles
- earned secure attachment
- relationship anxiety
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: One Love Collective
Books & works: Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy, The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier
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