Matchmaker for a Serial Rapist (Without Knowing It)

About this episode

Addie Sellers shares her shocking experience of matchmaking a client who was later convicted of serious crimes, discussing red flags in dating and the importance of trusting one's instincts.

Addie Sellers joins the podcast to share one of the most shocking experiences of her matchmaking career: working with a client who was later convicted and sentenced to 80 years in prison. We talk about the subtle red flags people miss in dating, why trusting your gut matters, how predators can hide behind seemingly perfect reputations, and the lessons Addie learned that changed the way she approaches relationships forever. Plus, we discuss rejection, resilience, and the importance of collecting data—not making excuses—when getting to know someone. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople   Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Get 15% off OneSkin, the science-backed skincare brand, with code seeingotherpeople at oneskin.co/seeingotherpeople . See Privacy Policy at…

People in this episode

Host: Ilana Dunn

Guest: Addie Sellers

Topics covered

• matchmaking
• red flags in dating
• trusting your gut
• predators in relationships
• rejection
• resilience
• data collection in dating

Keywords

• matchmaker
• serial rapist
• dating advice
• relationship red flags
• trust your gut
• predators
• rejection
• resilience
• data collection

Sponsors

Rula, Quince, Nutrafol, OneSkin

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Seeing Other People, art19

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