Red Flags or Dealbreakers? What We'd Think Now vs. When We Were Single

Red Flags or Dealbreakers? What We'd Think Now vs. When We Were Single

From Seeing Other People by Ilana Dunn

June 8, 2026 · 50 min · Episode 615

About this episode

The episode explores the difference in perceptions of red flags and dealbreakers between single and married perspectives.

Happy Monday! We're recording from Jake's childhood bedroom fresh off a wedding the night before. We talk about why we're obsessed with vows and speeches, what it's like to hear other couples' love stories and reflect on your own relationship, and the text a maid of honor read aloud that had us wanting to dig through our own phones. Then we get into our main segment: a fun game of red flags and deal breakers — but with a twist. For each scenario, we share what single us would have thought versus what married, more seasoned us thinks now. From slow texters to exes on Instagram, financial baggage to crying on the first date, it's equal parts honest, funny, and surprisingly nuanced. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE If your glasses are…

People in this episode

Host: Ilana Dunn

Topics covered

  • relationships
  • red flags
  • dealbreakers
  • marriage
  • dating
  • self-reflection

Keywords

  • red flags
  • dealbreakers
  • relationships
  • dating advice
  • marriage
  • self-reflection
  • love stories

Sponsors

Rula, Quince, Nutrafol, Zenni, Whatnot, OneSkin

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