Stop People Pleasing, Start Feeling Secure

About this episode

Trevor Hanson returns to discuss overcoming people pleasing and finding security in oneself.

Trevor Hanson is back for part two, and this episode goes even deeper into people pleasing, anxious attachment, and what it really means to feel secure in yourself. We talk about why even secure people can feel anxious in certain relationships, how to stop abandoning yourself to keep others happy, setting boundaries without guilt, and how identifying your values can completely change the way you date and heal. ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more) Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod  Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople   Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

People in this episode

Host: Ilana Dunn

Guest: Trevor Hanson

Topics covered

• people pleasing
• anxious attachment
• self security
• boundaries
• dating
• values

Keywords

• people pleasing
• anxious attachment
• self security
• boundaries
• dating coaching
• mental health

Sponsors

SKIMS, Rula, Quince, Nutrafol

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Seeing Other People

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