why women who put themselves first win every time

About this episode

This episode explores the cultural barriers that prevent women from prioritizing themselves and offers actionable steps to overcome these challenges.

for the woman who has always been the reliable one. the one who shows up, gives everything, and somehow still ends up last on her own list — without being able to explain why. this video is the explanation. and the way out. there is a system built into friendships, families, relationships, and culture itself that keeps women small. it does not announce itself loudly. it uses guilt, shame, and a single word to ensure you never fully choose yourself. this video dismantles it completely. we cover the cultural mechanism behind why women are punished for self-prioritisation, the exact patterns keeping you stuck at level one of your own life, and five non-negotiable actions to finally ascend.featuring lola and athena of course. watch until the end. ♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO: 01:18 Chapter 1: The Con 07:06 Chapter 2: The Proof 16:52 Chapter 3: The Ascent 🛍️ SHOP & LINKS: Shop my Abbott Lyon Collection use my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide! SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL MANIFESTATION JOURNAL PODCAST INSTAGRAM LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS ORDER MY BOOK THE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER STAY CONNECTED: MY INSTAGRAM MY SNAPCHAT [BTS] MY YOUTUBE MY VLOGS MY OTHER LINKS For…

People in this episode

Host: Tam Kaur

Guests: Lola, Athena

Topics covered

• self-prioritization
• women empowerment
• cultural mechanisms
• relationships
• personal growth

Keywords

• self-care
• guilt
• shame
• personal development
• women's issues

Sponsors

Abbott Lyon

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Abbott Lyon, SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL, MANIFESTATION JOURNAL, THE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP

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