About this episode

This episode explores how accepting paradoxes in marriage can lead to healing rather than conflict.

Most of the fights in your marriage aren't problems to solve. They're paradoxes, and we get stuck the moment we try to pick a side instead of accepting both. In this episode, I dig into why our faith is built floor to ceiling on paradoxes, why the Stockdale Paradox (brutal honesty plus unshakable faith) separates couples who heal from couples who quietly erode, and why even the word "cleave" asks you to cling and stand apart at the same time. I share how my clients broke a three-year standoff not by resolving their paradox but by stepping into the middle of it. If you've been waiting for the tension in your marriage to disappear before things get good, this one's for you.

People in this episode

Host: Amanda Louder

Topics covered

• marriage
• paradoxes
• faith
• communication
• couples therapy

Keywords

• marriage
• paradoxes
• Stockdale Paradox
• communication
• couples therapy
• faith

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