Matt's Musings: Making Sex Fun Again!

Matt's Musings: Making Sex Fun Again!

From Sex, Here & Now by sexhereandnow

April 3, 2026 · 6 min · Episode 42

About this episode

Matt discusses the importance of making sex fun again by shifting focus from performance to connection and pleasure.

We need to talk about something that does not get said enough. Sex is supposed to be fun. In this episode of Matt’s Musings, I challenge the pressure people put on themselves to perform perfectly in the bedroom. From queefing to losing an erection at the worst possible moment, I break down why these experiences are completely normal and why they do not mean anything is wrong. This episode is really about shifting your mindset. Moving away from performance and perfection and getting back to connection, play, and pleasure. I also walk you through a simple but powerful exercise to help you and your partner reconnect with what actually makes sex feel good. If sex has started to feel serious, stressful, or like something you have to get “right,” this one is for you. Are you a healthcare professional or mental health therapist and looking for sex therapy continuing education? Get 10% of your first course here by using code podcast10 A list of sex education, sex therapy, and relationship resources here Sign up for my online class here You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube! Let's get social: Website / Instagram / YouTube Please make sure to subscribe and rate my podcast!

People in this episode

Host: Matt

Topics covered

  • sex positivity
  • performance anxiety
  • connection
  • pleasure
  • mindset shift

Keywords

  • sex
  • fun
  • performance
  • pleasure
  • connection
  • mindset
  • relationship

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