Sexual Confidence and How to Talk About What Turns You On (With Dr Tara)

About this episode

The episode discusses the importance of sexual confidence and effective communication about desires and pleasure with expert Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn.

It's no secret talking about sex can be awkward – that is, if you get round to doing it at all. But what with a lack of sex education, the fact that pleasure for women and LGBTQ+ people is basically completely ignored, and not to mention the rise of conservatism, it can be almost impossible to know what to say and how to describe your pleasure. That's where sexual confidence is crucial. This week, we're joined by Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn , the dating expert on Channel 4's Celebs Go Dating, host of the Luvbites podcast, and professor of sexual and relational communication to to help us build the vocabulary for talking about sex, desire, and pleasure — but without the cringe, don't worry. We start with a conversation about how sexual confidence shows up outside the bedroom, how it's different from sexual self-esteem, and what you can actually do to feel more confident expressing your desires (hint: practice helps). Dr Tara then talks us through her sexual profile quiz . A part of her recent book How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want (In Bed) the quiz offers 16 sexuality 'types' – or rather, practical terms you can use to communicate with your partner. Whether…

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Host: Sextras

Guest: Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn

Topics covered

• sexual confidence
• communication about sex
• pleasure
• sexual education
• relationships

Keywords

• sexual confidence
• talking about sex
• pleasure
• sexual education
• desire
• communication

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Channel 4, Luvbites

Books & works: How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want (In Bed)

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