WTF Is Kink, Anyway? With Gigi Engle

About this episode

This episode discusses the misconceptions around kink and provides guidance for beginners, featuring guest Gigi Engle.

If there's one aspect of sex that's severely misunderstood, it's kink. From 50 Shades of Grey misrepresenting it as being non-consensual and all about pain, to the stigma of openly associating with any kind of desire that's not ✨mainstream✨ it can be a little intimidating to consciously decide to engage in kink for the first time. And not least because there's so much information out there that, as a beginner, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed and wonder if your desires even count as kink at all. Well, never fear, because in this episode we're joined by the wonderful Gigi Engle to discuss everything you need to know about kink as a beginner. We start the episode answering some listener questions (to access more subscribe to our Substack @sextras ) before jumping into why we need to talk about kink (hint: because more people engage in it than you realise, and it can be dangerous if you get it wrong!). Gigi tells me about her own journey into kink and explains what a kink actually is, and what it's not (ie. it's not just BDSM and foot fetishes). We look at how power dynamics come into it, and why they're not as scary as they might sound, how to know what kinks you're into, and…

People in this episode

Host: Sextras

Guest: Gigi Engle

Topics covered

• kink
• BDSM
• power dynamics
• sexual desires
• beginner's guide to kink

Keywords

• kink
• BDSM
• sexuality
• power dynamics
• kink-related fantasies
• beginner's guide

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