Why Sex Hurts: Healing Painful Sex + Owning Your Pleasure & Badass Confidence with Nicoletta Heidegger

About this episode

This episode features a discussion on healing painful sex and embracing pleasure with sex therapist Nicoletta Heidegger.

Episode 175: Pleasure, Pain and Creepy Fantasy's with Nicoletta Heidegger In this juicy + deeply validating episode, I sit down with the incredible Nicoletta Heidegger — Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#110256), award-nominated Sexologist, and host of the hit podcast Sluts & Scholars . Nicoletta specializes in sex therapy and Equine Assisted Psychotherapy, offering virtual sessions and sessions at her unique ranch office in Los Angeles. She’s Stanford and Pepperdine educated, holds a Master’s in Human Sexuality from Widener University, and is known for her shame-free, sex-positive approach to healing and pleasure. We go all the way in on a topic so many women deal with silently: Pelvic floor pain and shame around sex. We unpack: • Why pain during sex is actually not normal (even though many of us were told it is) • How shame, fear, and survival responses show up physically in the pelvic floor • Where pelvic tension, pain, numbness, or tightness actually come from • How to begin healing through nervous system regulation + somatic release • How to find the right pelvic floor therapist or sex-positive specialist • What real embodied healing looks like — not just…

People in this episode

Host: Tia Lynn Campbell

Guest: Nicoletta Heidegger

Topics covered

• painful sex
• pelvic floor therapy
• shame and sexuality
• nervous system regulation
• fantasy and desire
• healing and pleasure

Keywords

• pain during sex
• pelvic tension
• somatic release
• sex-positive therapy
• embodied healing
• fantasy expression

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Sluts & Scholars, Stanford, Pepperdine, Widener University

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