About this episode

The episode discusses the inherited rules about self-worth that affect individuals with ADHD and how these beliefs can shape their perception of value based on performance.

There's a rule most of us signed before we could read it. It decides whether we're worth anything, and it tends to set the same terms for everyone who carries an ADHD brain: you're valuable if you perform, if you keep every plate spinning, if you never let anyone down. Live under that contract long enough and it stops feeling like a belief and starts feeling like a fact — written, as the metaphor goes this week, in permanent ink. Where did the rule come from? Often from the earliest lessons — the pulled-out-of-class, extra-time, here-are-your-accommodations lessons that were meant to level the field but landed as proof you were different. The gap they leave behind doesn't shrink with age. There's research suggesting it widens. The assumption that everyone else has this figured out turns out to be the lie that keeps the rule in place. Links & Notes Support the Show on Patreon Dig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:17) - Join the Patreon! (03:13) - Rewriting Rules ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

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Topics covered

• self-worth
• ADHD
• performance
• beliefs
• accommodations
• mental health

Keywords

• ADHD
• self-worth
• performance
• beliefs
• accommodations
• mental health
• value

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Organizations: TruStory FM

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