About this episode

John Kim discusses the inner work necessary for building healthy relationships and personal growth.

What does it actually take to build healthy relationships? In this Therapy Thursdays episode, John Kim answers some of the most common questions about love, healing, attachment, and personal growth. From redefining what it means to fall in love to understanding why peace is something you give yourself - not something you find - this episode explores the inner work that shapes the way we connect with others. John shares practical insights on anxious attachment, healing after toxic relationships, rupture and repair, emotional safety, and why the healthiest relationships are built through daily choices rather than fleeting feelings. He also explores the importance of studying yourself, accepting impermanence, and living a "through me" life instead of feeling like life is happening to you. In this episode: • Why peace is something you can give yourself • What it means to live a "through me" life • Why self-help is really the lifelong study of self • How fear of impermanence fuels suffering • The qualities that should never be negotiable in relationships • The difference between falling in love and choosing to love • Signs you're in a healthy, secure relationship • Whether emotional…

People in this episode

Host: John Kim

Topics covered

• healthy relationships
• attachment
• personal growth
• emotional safety
• self-help
• toxic relationships

Keywords

• healthy relationships
• anxious attachment
• emotional healing
• rupture and repair
• self-acceptance
• personal growth

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