"Why 'Bad Behavior' Isn't Bad Parenting — And the Harmful 'Raised Right' Myth About Autism & ADHD"
About this episode
The episode discusses the misconceptions surrounding 'bad behavior' in autistic and ADHD children and the societal pressures on parents.
If you've ever felt that gut punch… The side eye. The comment. The subtle (or not so subtle) message that your child is "too much"… or that you're somehow getting it wrong as a parent… I get it! In this episode of The Autism ADHD Podcast, I'm talking about something that so many parents and therapists experience… but we don't talk about enough: The "good kid / bad kid" narrative The "they were raised right" comments And the damage this causes for autistic and ADHD kids — and their families This episode was inspired by two real-life moments that happened just days apart… and they both reminded me how deeply rooted these beliefs are in our society. Here's what we dive into: Why behavior is often misunderstood (and what's actually underneath it) How neurological differences are mistaken for "bad behavior" Why shame is NOT a teaching tool (and what it actually does) The emotional toll on parents of autistic and ADHD children How masking develops — and why it can be dangerous Why families begin to withdraw and isolate The invisible, extraordinary work of neurodivergent parenting This episode is for you if: You're parenting an autistic or ADHD child and feel judged or misunderstood…
People in this episode
Host: Holly Blanc Moses
Topics covered
- parenting
- autism
- ADHD
- behavior
- neurodiversity
- mental health
Keywords
- bad behavior
- autism
- ADHD
- parenting
- neurodiversity
- emotional regulation
- shame
- masking
- judgment
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