Why Some Tasks Feel Impossible for Autistic & ADHD Kids: Visual-Spatial Skills, Executive Functioning, and the Cost of Shame
About this episode
Holly Blanc Moses discusses the challenges autistic and ADHD children face with tasks that seem easy for others, focusing on visual-spatial skills and executive functioning.
Why does your autistic or ADHD child struggle with things that seem easy for everyone else? Maybe they can't keep their room organized. Maybe they lose things constantly. Maybe they seem overwhelmed by tasks that other children complete without much effort. And maybe you've wondered... "Are they just not trying?" In this episode, I share a personal story that completely changed the way I think about strengths, executive functioning, and why some tasks feel impossible for certain brains. When I opened the door to a cluttered closet at my clinic, I felt immediate overwhelm, shame, and paralysis. The teenager I hired to organize it had the exact opposite reaction—excitement, energy, and endless ideas. Same closet. Different brains. Different strengths. Using my own experiences as an autistic and ADHD psychologist, I discuss how visual-spatial differences and executive functioning challenges can impact organization, problem-solving, learning, navigation, daily living skills, and self-confidence. We also explore why shame doesn't help autistic and ADHD children develop skills, and how repeatedly being told they're lazy, or not trying hard enough, can have lasting effects on their…
People in this episode
Host: Holly Blanc Moses
Topics covered
- autism
- ADHD
- executive functioning
- visual-spatial skills
- organization
- mental health
- self-esteem
Keywords
- autistic children
- ADHD
- organization
- executive functioning
- visual-spatial skills
- shame
- self-confidence
- mental health
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