The Conversation Your Parents Never Had With Themselves (And Yours Is Overdue) | Dr Shefali

The Conversation Your Parents Never Had With Themselves (And Yours Is Overdue) | Dr Shefali

June 14, 2026 · 48 min

About this episode

Dr. Shefali joins Erika to discuss how childhood patterns affect adult life and the importance of conscious parenting.

Today Dr Shefali, a NYT bestselling author and the world's leading conscious parenting psychologist, joins Erika to unpack the childhood patterns running your adult life, and how to stop them here. This isn't another conversation about how to be a better parent. It's about understanding the difference between who you became by default and who you actually want to be. If you've ever caught yourself thinking: "Why does this keep happening to me no matter what I do?" "I know my past affected me but I don't know how much" "I keep reacting in ways I don't understand and I don't know why" "I've been waiting for someone to say sorry so I can finally move on" "I don't want to repeat what was done to me but I don't know how to stop" Then this episode is for you. In this conversation, Erika and Dr Shefali cover: - Why we absorb our parents' patterns without ever choosing to, and how to recognise them in yourself - At what point your childhood stops being an explanation and starts being a choice The illusion of closure and why you don't need anyone else to give it to you - How to give yourself what your parents never did - What conscious parenting actually means and why it starts with you…

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