About this episode

This episode discusses the importance of preparing your support person for labor to ensure a positive birth experience.

Most birth prep focuses on you - your breathing, your birth plan, your body. But what about the person standing next to you? Because here's the truth: if your partner isn't prepared, they will default to the doctor. Every single time. And you'll be left feeling completely alone in one of the most intense, vulnerable moments of your life. That's exactly why I brought Lena Athena onto the show. Lena is changing how the world understands boundaries. She created the Kind Boundaries framework to show that boundaries aren't a source of conflict, they're the foundation of every healthy relationship. She's a TEDx speaker, founder of the boundaries practice app HEARD, and author of a forthcoming book on belonging and boundaries. She specializes in supporting women in the most boundary-violated season of life: the transition into motherhood. In this episode, we cover: Why partners shut down in the labor room The conversation you need to have before you ever go into labor How to have the hard conversations without blowing up your relationship The role relationship dynamics play in the birth room Three steps to get back on the same team if you've already drifted apart You should not have to…

People in this episode

Host: Trish Ware

Guest: Lena Athena

Topics covered

• support person
• labor room
• boundaries
• relationship dynamics
• birth preparation

Keywords

• labor support
• birth plan
• communication
• relationship
• motherhood

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: HEARD

Books & works: Kind Boundaries

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