“But I had a happy childhood…”

About this episode

Victoria Kleinsman discusses how a seemingly happy childhood can still lead to eating disorders due to unmet emotional needs.

"But I Had a Happy Childhood": Why Your Eating Disorder Still Makes Complete Sense This one comes up with almost every single person I work with. But Victoria, I had a happy childhood. My parents loved me. I don't have any trauma. So why do I have an eating disorder? This episode is my answer. Because trauma is not only what happened to you. Trauma is also what didn't happen to you. The absence of the big stuff does not mean your emotional needs were met. And unmet emotional needs in childhood are trauma, just not the kind that gets talked about enough. This episode is for you if: You have always said "but I had a happy childhood" and wondered why that hasn't explained or healed things You feel like you have no right to struggle because nothing that bad happened to you You have done the therapy, the journaling, the work, and still feel it in your body You want to understand why your eating disorder was created in the first place You are ready to grieve what you didn't get, without blame, but with truth In this episode, we cover: ✨ Why trauma is not only what happened to you, it is also what didn't happen to you ✨ How unmet emotional needs in childhood create…

People in this episode

Host: Victoria Kleinsman

Topics covered

• eating disorders
• childhood trauma
• emotional needs
• mental health
• body image

Keywords

• eating disorder
• happy childhood
• trauma
• emotional needs
• body shame

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