How Communication Changes Everything

About this episode

Candace discusses communication types with therapist Jason VanRuler, focusing on the Peacemaker type and its impact on relationships.

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like the other person heard something completely different from what you said? That gap between what we want and what really happens is where so many of our hardest moments show up — in our marriages, with our kids, with the people we love most. This week, Candace sits down with licensed therapist, coach, and author Jason VanRuler to start a six-week series on the five communication types he outlines in his book "Discovering Your Communication Type." Right from the start, this one feels less like a lecture and more like finally getting words for something you've always sensed about yourself. Jason introduces the PATHS framework: Peacemaker, Advocate, Thinker, Harbor, and Spark — and the conversation digs into the first type: the Peacemaker. If you've ever found yourself working overtime to keep everyone okay, managing the energy in a room without anyone even knowing, this episode is going to feel very familiar. Jason shares how our communication types are often rooted in what we needed most as kids, and how the gift we give others is usually the gift we once longed for ourselves. A listener question from Bethany about her…

People in this episode

Host: Candace Cameron Bure

Guest: Jason VanRuler

Topics covered

• communication
• relationships
• therapy
• self-awareness
• parenting
• marriage

Keywords

• communication types
• Peacemaker
• relationships
• therapy
• self-awareness
• marriage advice

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Discovering Your Communication Type

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