How to Be Honest Without Losing the Relationship
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Candace and therapist Jason VanRuler discuss effective communication styles and the importance of honesty in relationships.
Have you ever told the truth and still felt like the message didn't land? Or held back because you weren't sure how to say it without it coming across wrong? Candace and licensed therapist Jason VanRuler are back this week continuing the conversation about the PATHS communication types — and this time they're going deep on two of them: the Advocate and the Thinker. The Advocate leads with what's fair, what's right, and what needs to be said. Proverbs 27:5 says, "Better is open rebuke than hidden love" — and that's the Advocate's whole posture. But Jason talks about what it looks like when the truth is delivered without the right packaging, and Candace opens up about her own Advocate score and a real conversation where she had to say out loud: the truth matters more to me than the fix right now. The Thinker, meanwhile, goes quiet before they go anywhere. Proverbs 18:13 is the anchor verse: "To answer before listening — that is folly and shame." Someone with a Thinker communication style is processing and fact-checking themselves, making sure what they say is worth saying. Candace shares what that looks like on set and why the people around her have learned to just let her think…
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Host: Candace Cameron Bure
Guest: Jason VanRuler
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Books & works: Proverbs 27:5, Proverbs 18:13
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