Ep 11: Co-Parenting as a Superpower: Raising Kids Through Conscious Separation

Ep 11: Co-Parenting as a Superpower: Raising Kids Through Conscious Separation

From The Dad Manual by Tony Cooper

March 10, 2026 · 50 min · Episode 11

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Shane Metcalf discusses the importance of personal growth and conscious co-parenting in raising children after divorce.

Your kid isn't just testing your patience — they're revealing everything you still need to heal. Shane Metcalf is a father who made a decision most dads never do: to do the deep inner work before the hard moments arrived. His daughter Ava is almost six, and Shane hasn't yelled at her once. Not because she's an easy kid — she's strong-willed, irrational, and negotiates like a seasoned attorney — but because Shane made an internal decision rooted in years of personal growth, therapy, and a clear-eyed look at the cycles he wanted to break. In this conversation with host Tony Cooper, Shane opens up about growing up in a household full of verbal anger, what it took to consciously choose a different path, and how co-parenting after divorce can actually become one of the most powerful gifts you give your child. He shares the thought experiments he uses when frustration peaks, the philosophy behind gentle-but-boundaried parenting, and why roughhousing with your daughter matters just as much as with your son. This is an honest, raw, and deeply practical conversation for any dad serious about showing up differently. Key Takeaways: The relationship you build with your child now — at 5 or 6…

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