About this episode

Tony Cooper and guest Henry Poole discuss the importance of intentional parenting and the lessons children learn from their parents' behavior.

Your kids are watching everything you do — and learning from none of what you say. Henry Poole — creative entrepreneur, father of two grown sons, and one of the most thoughtful men Tony Cooper knows — sits down for a deep, honest conversation about what it really means to parent with intention. From discovering the emotion of anger in his 40s to forgiving his father in a therapist's office before his first son was even born, Henry's path to conscious fatherhood is unlike anything you've heard before. Key Takeaways: Kids learn from behavior, not words — if you tell them not to hit while hitting them, you've already lost the lesson Anger isn't a broken emotion — it's lightning, natural and necessary, and learning to express it honestly changed Henry's entire family dynamic Forgiving your own father before you become a father may be the single most powerful thing you can do Overcorrecting away from your parents' style can create its own set of problems — resilience requires some rough edges Coming from two very different cultural and religious backgrounds creates both conflict and extraordinary perspective The "strict father / nurturing mother" archetypes are deeper than we think —…

People in this episode

Host: Tony Cooper

Guest: Henry Poole

Topics covered

• parenting
• behavioral learning
• emotional expression
• forgiveness
• cultural perspectives
• family dynamics

Keywords

• parenting
• intentional parenting
• behavior learning
• anger management
• forgiveness
• family dynamics
• cultural backgrounds

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