266. "I'm embarrassed to want partnership after fighting so hard for my independence" live coaching session
About this episode
In this live coaching session, Lily helps Cora navigate her feelings of shame about wanting partnership after achieving independence.
Cora left an unhealthy marriage, deconstructed her entire evangelical upbringing, bought her first house, and raised two 16-year-olds solo. Then she met someone really good on Hinge. Who met all of her essence-based preferences. And she almost talked herself out of it. Not because he did anything wrong. Because she felt ashamed for wanting partnership after working so hard to become independent. In this live coaching session on The Feminist Dating Show, I coach Cora through the spiral in real time. We build her an "if this, then that" plan for the anxiety. We upgrade the questions she's asking herself. And we talk about why "desire is your birthright" (in the words of Dr. Juliana Hauser), not something you have to earn after you've suffered enough. If you have ever felt like wanting love was a betrayal of your hard-won independence, episode 266 is for you. Work with Lily: Read Lily's book: Thank You, More Please Watch on YouTube: youtube.com/@datebrazen Follow on TikTok: tiktok.com/@datebrazen Follow on Instagram: instagram.com/datebrazen Explore programs + resources: datebrazen.com
People in this episode
Host: Lily Womble
Guest: Cora
Topics covered
- partnership
- independence
- coaching
- anxiety
- desire
- self-worth
Keywords
- partnership
- independence
- coaching
- anxiety
- desire
- self-improvement
- relationships
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