The Feminist Dating Show

You know that spiral where you replay a conversation for hours, convinced you said the wrong thing to the wrong person at the wrong time? Lily's got one sentence that ends it. This week's Episode Spotlight revisits the piece of advice that went viral for a reason: you cannot say the wrong thing to the right person. Inside this episode: ✨ The exact moment on a first date Lily talked about her ex for 30 minutes straight, and why it didn't end the relationship (it's the one she's still in, eight years later) ✨ The follow-up nobody talks about: the right person isn't just forgiving, they know how to ask for what they need ✨ Why "minimum viable audience" means you're not for everybody, and that's the relief valve for first-date anxiety ✨ The difference between being a mind-reader and letting someone tell you what they need ✨ How to stop treating dating like there's a secret script you have to get right → Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book → Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating → Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook → Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ → Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen → Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

Your brain is convinced it knows how your love story ends. It's gathered all the evidence from your past and decided: this is just how it is. But your brain is not a fortune teller. It's a safety mechanism. And it is working with about 1% of the data. In this episode of The Feminist Dating Show, Lily breaks down three reasons you might just be wrong that finding love is impossible — and why more is possible in your love life than you currently believe. Inside episode 274: Why your brain's "it's never going to happen" narrative is a biological feature, not a fact about your future The math on how many people you haven't met yet — and what that means for your love life How to use the relationships you already have as evidence that more is coming The two things that actually change your timeline: proximity to opportunity and courageous behavior in the face of it Lily's ACK process for rewiring your brain toward possibility when scarcity takes over Work with Lily: Join my free live training, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed: https://datebrazen.com/lets-go Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

You want dating to feel like something you're in charge of, that is going your way, not something that's happening to you. That shift-- from anxious hustle to magnetic momentum-- is what this episode is about. This week on The Feminist Dating Show, Lily breaks down the three levels of dating energy and exactly how to move from bothered and stressed to unbothered in your love life. Inside episode 272: The three levels of dating energy-- student, bothered CEO, unbothered CEO-- and the specific behaviors that tell you where you actually are right now Why the bothered CEO over-personalizes rejection and outsources decisions (and how to stop) The SOP system that removes anxious decision-making from your dating life entirely How to use jealousy and comparison as a compass pointing toward what you want instead of proof that you're behind The ACK method: a three-step framework for getting back to unbothered when rejection happens 💎 Join my free live training, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed on June 9th, 2026: https://datebrazen.com/lets-go 💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book 💎Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook 💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/ 💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen 💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

If you want to meet someone IRL, but the "how" feels like a total mystery.... This episode tells you exactly why it hasn't happened yet and what to do about it. Inside episode 270: → The two things that determine whether you meet people IRL: proximity to opportunity and courageous behavior in the face of it → What joy building is and why it works →What shooting your shot looks like when you're shy, anxious, or starting from zero → The self-assessment and action steps to take this week Work with Lily: 💎 Join my free live training on June 9th 2026, Attract the Right Partner, Zero Experience Needed → Get the book, Thank You, More Please → Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide → Follow me on Instagram → Follow me on TikTok → Follow me on YouTube

This one's for you if dating has started to feel like a hamster wheel of painful experiences… and you keep thinking: I've done so much work on myself—why is this still so hard? In this live session, I coach Quinn through: the loop of type vs. essence-based preferences the fear of being "too much" in dating what to do when uncertainty triggers a full-body spiral how to tell if your "picker is broken"… or if you've been trained to assume you're the problem self-compassion as a real tool (not a pep talk) to re-regulate and come back home to yourself how to update your EBPs so you're not dating someone you have to parent or beg for affection community + dating after a big move By the end, Quinn says it perfectly: this session felt like closing a bunch of tabs in her brain and finally having the system run again. If you've ever been in the mindset of "it's fate or it's me," I want you to hear this. Work with Lily: Read Lily's book: Thank You, More Please Watch on YouTube: youtube.com/@datebrazen Follow on TikTok: tiktok.com/@datebrazen Follow on Instagram: instagram.com/datebrazen Explore programs + resources: datebrazen.com

In this episode, I'm sharing my 10 rules of feminist dating—the principles I know actually lead to an equitable, joyful partnership. No matter your past experience (or lack of experience), your age, or your sexuality, these rules are here to help you magnetize the right partner and feel amazing doing it. These 10 rules are a response to outdated, patriarchal dating advice that teaches you to shrink, self-silence, and settle. I walk through what it means to date as the main character of your life, expect co-creation, stop doing unnecessary emotional labor, question inherited scripts, and reject the idea that you're "too late." This episode is for late bloomers, restarter daters, and anyone who wants to date with power, alignment, and self-trust—without playing games or abandoning themselves along the way.

If the holidays bring up nerves about being single — the questions, the pressure, the comparisons — this episode is your Holiday Dating Survival Guide. It's a warm, grounding replay packed with self-compassion, boundaries that protect your peace, and real scripts for handling conversations about your dating life. Inside, Lily shares: how to release the self-judgment we've all internalized from patriarchal socialization (that says that coupled women are "ahead" of single women) why self-compassion is the antidote to self-judgment (and how to practice it daily) three phrases from Dr. Kristin Neff's work to use when you're feeling nervous, jealous, conflicted, or despairing how to identify the desire underneath your fear so you can move forward from a grounded place what to actually say when someone asks, "So… how's your dating life going?" how to use boundaries, a self-care plan, and a joy-building plan to support yourself this season why you don't owe anyone your story — and how to practice unbothered energy how to feel less alone, even if you are the only single person in the room This episode is a reminder that no matter what happened in your love life this year, you are worthy of celebration. You get to take up space. You get to be proud of yourself. You get to feel belonging. ✨ This is the final episode of 2025. The podcast returns in January 2026. 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎧 Listen on Spotify Work with LilyRead Lily's book: Thank You, More PleaseExplore programs + resources: datebrazen.com Follow Lily everywhere: 📺 YouTube Channel 📸 Instagram 📲 Tiktok 🌐 Website

In this episode, Abby shares her late bloomer story with so much honesty and clarity. We talk about what it was like to be in her mid-30s, never having been in a serious relationship, carrying a loud "I'm behind" and "I'm weird" narrative, and feeling totally unsure how to talk about her dating history without spiraling. Abby opens up about moving to a new city, trying to date while feeling embarrassed about her experience, and struggling with the not good enough voice that made her avoid connection. She also shares what shifted for her as she started to process shame, build community, and trust herself enough to take up more space at work, in dating, and in her daily life. Inside this episode, you'll hear: how Abby learned to identify and quiet the "I'm weird" and "I'm behind" voice how belonging helped her stop self-isolating and start connecting what helped her ask for what she wanted (down to "I need 25% more texts") how she advocated for herself at work while doing two jobs how she built friendships, community, and eventually a healthy relationship what she wishes she could tell her past self, who felt so far behind This is a powerful example of what can happen when you stop avoiding your desires and start trusting yourself enough to move toward them. Work with Lily ✨ Join the live training: Stop People-Pleasing and Build a Stupidly Joyful Life live training-- December 3rd: Sign up HERE ✨ Apply to Main Character Life, my 6-month mastermind where Abby did this work — the space to release people-pleasing, build self-trust, advocate for what you want, and go after the life you've been circling for years. Apply HERE ✨ Get my Book — Thank You, More Please, Buy the book + grab your bonus HERE Follow Lily everywhere: 📺 YouTube Channel 📸 Instagram 📲 Tiktok 🌐 Website