How to Stay With Yourself in Hard Conversations (When You Want to Disappear)
About this episode
Vanessa Bennett discusses how to stay present during difficult conversations and the importance of self-awareness in moments of discomfort.
In yoga, there’s a teaching: the pose begins the moment you want to leave it —and the same is true in healing, intimacy, and hard conversations. In this episode, Vanessa Bennett, LMFT explores how growth isn’t built in your best insights, but in the moment your body tightens, your nervous system wants out, and you choose to stay with yourself instead of disappearing. We talk about the difference between pausing to regulate vs. over-processing as self-protection, and why there’s no perfect script that can guarantee another person’s response. The invitation: practice the “micro-moments” of noticing, allowing, and naming what’s true—so discernment doesn’t become self-abandonment. For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: VanessaBennett.com Book: The Motherhood Myth Community: Inner Compass Collective Training: Inner Compass Academy Connect with Inner Compass Follow on Instagram Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Learn more on Substack Connect with Vanessa Bennett on…
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