Too Much, Not Enough: Two Sides of the Same Wound

About this episode

Vanessa Bennett explores the intertwined wounds of feeling too much and not enough, emphasizing the importance of authentic selfhood in the face of societal pressures.

If you’ve ever felt like being fully yourself would make you harder to love, this episode is for you. Vanessa Bennett explores how the too much wound and the not enough wound are often the same core fear: that authentic selfhood threatens belonging. We talk about the way self-editing becomes a survival strategy—somatically, relationally, culturally—and how “being good” can masquerade as maturity while actually costing you your aliveness. The work isn’t “just be yourself”—it’s staying connected to yourself even when your full humanity makes other people uncomfortable. For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: VanessaBennett.com Book: The Motherhood Myth Community: Inner Compass Collective Training: Inner Compass Academy Connect with Inner Compass Follow on Instagram Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Learn more on Substack Connect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedIn See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at…

People in this episode

Host: Vanessa Bennett

Topics covered

• self-identity
• belonging
• authenticity
• mental health
• self-editing
• survival strategies

Keywords

• authentic selfhood
• belonging
• self-editing
• mental health
• survival strategy
• maturity
• aliveness

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Inner Compass Collective, Inner Compass Academy, Substack, Gamut Podcast Network

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