About this episode

Amanda Dames interviews Matt Salis about the complexities of masculinity, emotional intimacy, and healthier relationship models.

Why does the word "masculinity" feel so loaded? I went looking for answers, and found the perfect person to break it down. In this episode, I sit down with Matt Salis, a behavioral health writer and researcher with a master's degree in sexual health and over a decade of experience in addiction and emotional abuse recovery. We get into the difference between toxic masculinity and what Matt calls emotional masculinity and why the manosphere is selling men a losing strategy. We also talk about emotional safety, resentment processing, the connection between vulnerability and sexual satisfaction, and how the consent culture in the kink community offers a model for healthier relationships everywhere. If you have ever wondered what masculinity looks like without the toxicity, or how emotional intimacy actually impacts your sex life, this conversation is going to change the way you think about both. Tune in, take what resonates, and keep exploring what feels authentic to you. Connect with Matt Salis https://soberandunashamed.com/ https://un-toxicated.com/ Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with…

People in this episode

Host: Amanda Dames

Guest: Matt Salis

Topics covered

• toxic masculinity
• emotional masculinity
• intimacy
• vulnerability
• consent culture
• kink community

Keywords

• masculinity
• emotional safety
• resentment processing
• sexual satisfaction
• kink

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Sober and Unashamed, Un-Toxicated, The Kink Consultant

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