About this episode

Connell Barrett discusses how to introduce kink in dating without sounding creepy.

Dating coach, Connell Barrett returns to the podcast and this time we’re diving into one of the biggest questions people struggle with in dating: how the hell do you actually bring up kink? In this episode, we talk about how to introduce kink naturally without making someone feel objectified, overwhelmed, or unsafe. Connell shares his perspective as someone who explored the kink world through Feeld, how he rewrote his dating profile to attract kinky women without coming across as creepy, and why “normal” is one of the sexiest compliments you can receive on a dating app. We also get into flirting versus fawning, masculine leadership in dating, why so many men are terrified of being perceived as creepy, and how self-doubt is quietly ruining modern dating. Plus, we unpack why submissive men still need leadership energy, why women often want men to lead the date regardless of kink dynamic, and why kink is really just flirting dialled all the way up. If you’ve ever struggled with talking about sex, introducing kink, or reading the room on a date this episode is for you! Connect with Connell Barrett https://datingtransformation.com/ https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation/ See…

People in this episode

Host: Amanda Dames

Guest: Connell Barrett

Topics covered

• kink in dating
• communication
• flirting
• masculine leadership
• self-doubt in dating

Keywords

• kink
• dating
• flirting
• self-doubt
• masculine leadership
• communication
• objectification

Sponsors

Hedonism II

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Feeld, Hedonism II, Swinkation, Dating Transformation, The Kink Consultant

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