819 Auto-Accommodating Is Costing You More Than You Think. Here's How to Stop.

About this episode

Terri Cole explores the concept of auto-accommodating and its impact on personal well-being and relationships.

Do you say yes before checking your calendar? Jump in to fix problems that aren't yours to solve? Adjust your plans without a second thought to keep the peace? If any of this sounds familiar, you might be an auto-accommodator. And trust me, it's costing you more than you realize. About two years ago, I shared a story about auto-accommodating that struck a nerve with so many of you. The response was immediate and overwhelming – it went viral because people finally had a name for this reflexive pattern they'd been living with for years. In this week's episode of The Terri Cole Show, I'm diving deeper into auto-accommodating – what it is, why we do it, and most importantly, how to stop. This isn't about breaking a bad habit. We're talking about shifting a deeply ingrained behavioral pattern that silently influences your relationships, stress levels, resentment, and sense of self. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/819

People in this episode

Host: Terri Cole

Topics covered

• auto-accommodating
• behavioral patterns
• relationships
• stress management
• self-awareness

Keywords

• auto-accommodating
• behavior change
• mental health
• self-care
• boundaries

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