People's Court Ep.07: Hooking Up with a Taken Man — Who’s Really to Blame?

About this episode

The hosts discuss a messy Reddit post about infidelity and the moral implications of continuing to hook up with someone in a relationship.

Hey friend — welcome back to True Crimes Against Wine. Today we dive into a toothpaste-level messy Reddit post: a woman sleeps with a guy who flirted with her, later finds out (via an unsent text) he’s in a relationship, and now wonders if she's the asshole for continuing to hook up. Spoiler: the hosts have strong opinions. We read the whole thing out loud — the creeping suggestive looks, the technical "I'm not married" dodge, the unsent confession, and that shaky justification that ‘‘if it's not me it'll be someone else anyway.’’ We call out the red flags: half-truths, deletions, and anyone who hides things with legalistic wordplay. If someone relies on technicalities to lie, they're not a trustworthy partner — and that matters for everyone involved. The tone gets real and candid: the hosts own up to past mistakes, talk about what it feels like to be cheated on, and explain why continuing to sleep with someone you know is in a relationship is choosing to aid a betrayal. You're not culpable for what you didn't know, but once you know, it's on you to do better. The verdict is blunt and unforgettable. We also unpack the messy justifications people use, the hazards of affairs…

People in this episode

Hosts: Judge Topher, Judge Rachel

Topics covered

• relationships
• infidelity
• morality
• judgment
• personal accountability

Keywords

• infidelity
• Reddit
• relationships
• morality
• accountability
• cheating
• judgment

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Reddit

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