494. The Six Stages of Change
From UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone by Kara Loewentheil
May 21, 2026 · 29 min · Episode 494
About this episode
This episode discusses the six stages of behavior change and how to navigate them with self-compassion and without judgment.
How many times have you been doing the work, trying to change, and then completely lost it? You yelled at your kids, said yes when you meant no, or spent money you promised yourself you wouldn't, and thought, "I am failing. This is not working. I should just give up." We’ve all done this, which means we’ve all quit on change when we were already in the process, but just couldn’t see it. In this episode, I break down the six stages of behavior change so you can see that you are already in the process of change, even when it doesn't feel like it. You'll hear why shame keeps you stuck, why self-compassion is the bridge to noticing your behavior, and how observing yourself without judgment allows real change to begin. Plus, I share specific prompts and practical ways to work with yourself at each stage so you can finally create the change you want. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/494 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ If you want to go deeper on what it's like to be a coach or how to bring coaching into your current work, check out my new podcast, The Future Coach! You can find it anywhere you get your…
People in this episode
Host: Kara Loewentheil
Topics covered
- behavior change
- self-compassion
- shame
- personal development
- coaching
Keywords
- change
- self-help
- coaching
- behavior
- shame
- self-compassion
- personal growth
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: schoolofnewfeministthought.com, The Future Coach, Coach-Curious Prep School
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