Ep 124: The Problem with ‘Be Kind’ Culture

Ep 124: The Problem with ‘Be Kind’ Culture

From Unlearning by Shayna Naus

March 18, 2026 · 12 min · Season 2 · Episode 124

About this episode

This episode challenges the notion of 'be kind' culture by exploring the importance of energy and presence in interpersonal interactions.

We hear it all the time, “be kind.” But what if that’s not actually the standard we should be striving for? In this episode, I share a simple moment from my day that sparked a deeper realization about how we show up in the world—and how often we focus on behavior while completely overlooking energy . Because here’s the truth: People don’t just hear you… they feel you. We explore: Why “being kind” can sometimes become performative The subtle ways unprocessed stress shows up in your tone, body, and presence What it really means to be responsible for your energy How your nervous system state impacts every interaction you have Why regulation isn’t just personal work,it’s relational This isn’t about being perfect or saying the right thing. It’s about becoming aware of how you actually feel to be around . Because that’s what people remember. If you’ve ever walked away from an interaction thinking “nothing was wrong, but something felt off”… this episode will shift how you see yourself, and others. As always if this stirred something in you, lets chat!

People in this episode

Host: Shayna Naus

Topics covered

  • kindness
  • energy
  • stress
  • nervous system
  • interpersonal relationships
  • self-awareness

Keywords

  • be kind
  • performative kindness
  • energy awareness
  • nervous system impact
  • interactions
  • self improvement

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