🎙️Ask Me Anything – E55: Why Is It So Hard to Admit We’re Wrong?
About this episode
This episode explores the discomfort of admitting when we're wrong and the emotional barriers to accountability.
Do you know you should apologize, but feel your whole body resist the moment it's time to say the words? You are not alone. In this episode, we get honest about why accountability feels so threatening, and why it has far less to do with ego than you think. We tackle a question inspired by one of my recent group workshops: "Why does it feel so uncomfortable to admit when I'm wrong or apologize, even when I know I should?" If that hesitation feels familiar, this episode is for you. I want to release you from the idea that struggling to apologize means you don't care. Most of the people who struggle with this care deeply, sometimes too deeply. They are so terrified of being perceived as bad that accountability starts to feel emotionally annihilating. This is shame, not character, and what was learned can be unlearned. In this episode, you will learn: Guilt vs. Shame: Why "I did something bad" allows movement while "I am bad" creates collapse, defensiveness, and overexplaining. Where It Started: How growing up in homes where mistakes felt dangerous, punishable, or shameful taught your nervous system that being wrong risks disconnection. Why Adults Never Apologized: How homes built on…
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