Validation, Co-regulation, and Emotional Immaturity (with a Hint of Spirituality) w/Angela De Hoyos, ALC
About this episode
Tony Overbay and Angela De Hoyos discuss the impact of emotional immaturity and the need for validation in relationships.
What happens when your greatest strengths—your empathy, your willingness to self-reflect, your sensitivity—become the very tools someone uses to convince you everything is your fault? In this crossover episode with therapist Angela De Hoyos, ALC, Tony explores why validation feels like survival when you were raised in an emotionally unpredictable home. You learned that love could vanish without warning—so you became hypervigilant, endlessly working to secure connection that was never yours to earn. Now you may find yourself starving for validation from the one person who can't hold it steadily. You can learn more about Angela by visiting her website https://www.findingbalancecounseling.com/ and subscribe to her podcast “Finding Balance with Mental Health and Spirituality” here https://www.findingbalancecounseling.com/podcast EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: Understand the origins of validation: why we learn we exist through others' responses—and how that wiring gets exploited Discover why "pathologically kind" people attract emotionally immature partners—and keep trying harder when it doesn't work Recognize the trap of "if it's my fault, I can fix it"—and why that belief keeps you chasing…
People in this episode
Host: Tony Overbay LMFT
Guest: Angela De Hoyos, ALC
Topics covered
- validation
- emotional immaturity
- self-reflection
- hypervigilance
- self-trust
- empathy
Keywords
- validation
- emotional immaturity
- self-reflection
- hypervigilance
- self-trust
- empathy
- mental health
- spirituality
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Finding Balance Counseling
Books & works: Finding Balance with Mental Health and Spirituality
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