About this episode

The episode addresses questions about navigating transparency in marriage, the nature of Jesus before his incarnation, and struggles with vaginismus.

Questions answered this episode: Hi Christopher and Wendy, this is Matt. I wrote previously regarding a season of deep relational pain and sexual brokenness in our marriage. First, we have to share a miracle. The sacrifice you suggested—asking the global community to fast for our healing—brought a new wine of healing and self-giving love that seemed impossible. We're now in a golden hour of intense reconnection. However, as this fire wakes up, we've discovered deeper roots of lustful fantasies. We're committed to total transparency to avoid past secrecy, but we're struggling with the prudence of sharing. How do we navigate total transparency without that sharing becoming over-arousal or fueling the concupiscence we're trying to purify? We aren't sure how to face our desires without being taken by them. My question is about something that I've been thinking about for a while. I'm thinking about transfiguration. If Jesus has always been part of the salvation plan, and always exists, was the true bodily reality of Jesus what the apostles saw that day at the transfiguration? It makes me wonder, did Jesus have a bodily nature before the incarnation and entering into history? How? Or…

People in this episode

Host: Christopher West

Guest: Matt

Topics covered

• marriage
• healing
• transparency
• lust
• Jesus
• vaginismus

Keywords

• marriage
• healing
• transparency
• lustful fantasies
• Jesus
• incarnation
• vaginismus

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