About this episode

The episode addresses questions about marriage consummation, body image struggles, and the relevance of circumcision in modern times.

Questions answered this episode: Suppose a couple marries in the Catholic Church but mutually agrees to use contraception initially , intending to have children later. On their wedding night, they engage in marital relations. After seven years, they stop using contraception and have two children. In this situation, would their marriage be considered consummated from the wedding night , even though they were not open to life then, or would consummation occur later when they open themselves to having children? Additionally, if they return to using contraception after their second child, how does this affect the understanding of their marriage's consummation and integrity? My heart aches because I’ve struggled with my body image since youth, fueled by social media and boys rating girls. I don't have those drastic curvy proportions guys find ideal, and I feared I’d never be a man’s first choice. When I met my boyfriend, he made me feel like the only girl in the world, and I finally started loving my body. However, I recently found out he was hiding secret lustful habits . I’m shocked and my past pain is back. How can I ever feel beautiful or get married now? I just want to wear loose…

People in this episode

Host: Christopher West

Topics covered

• marriage
• consummation
• body image
• lust
• circumcision
• Catholic Church

Keywords

• marriage
• consummation
• contraception
• body image
• lust
• circumcision
• Catholic Church

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Theology of the Body Institute

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