About this episode

This episode discusses the impact of emotional outsourcing on self-worth and safety during and after divorce.

If you’ve ever caught yourself checking someone’s face, tone, or mood to decide whether you’re “okay,” you’re not overreacting and you’re not broken. In this episode I talk about the pattern behind that reflex and why it feels so intense during divorce and divorce recovery: emotional outsourcing, or the habit of sourcing safety, belonging, and self-worth from outside yourself instead of from within. I'll unpack how emotional outsourcing can masquerade as people pleasing, perfectionism, and c...

People in this episode

Host: Karin Nelson

Topics covered

• divorce
• self-worth
• emotional outsourcing
• mental health
• recovery
• people pleasing

Keywords

• divorce recovery
• self-worth
• emotional outsourcing
• people pleasing
• perfectionism

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