264. Why They Seem Emotionally Available Until Things Get Real (Dating Dilemmas)

264. Why They Seem Emotionally Available Until Things Get Real (Dating Dilemmas)

From Dating Intentionally by Talia Koren

May 19, 2026 · 33 min

About this episode

This episode explores the complexities of emotional availability in relationships through real listener dilemmas.

Emotional availability is one of the most desired traits in a partner, but it's so hard to find. In this episode, I'm walking through four real listener dilemmas that show how emotional unavailability actually shows up: from being blindsided by a breakup after a seemingly perfect relationship, to oversharing too early with someone you barely know, to getting stuck in a months-long holding pattern, to wondering if your sky-high standards are actually a wall. I'm breaking down what emotional availability really looks like, why "chasing the feeling" keeps people stuck, and how to start recognizing emotional availability so you don't miss it. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Episode 152 - a deeper dive on emotional unavailability Episode 217 - with Julia Kristina, a therapist and expert on emotional intelligence and maturity Episode 255 - healing anxious attachment with Rebecca Ore THANKS TO OUR PARTNERS Boll & Branch:  Get 15% off the softest bedding at  bollandbranch.com/dating Quince:  Get 10% off and 365-day returns at  quince.com/talia CONNECT WITH ME: ⁠Slide into my DMs on IG @dating.intentionally MORE FREE ADVICE & CONTENT Download my free dating guides…

People in this episode

Host: Talia Koren

Topics covered

  • emotional availability
  • relationships
  • dating dilemmas
  • self improvement
  • attachment styles

Keywords

  • emotional availability
  • breakup
  • oversharing
  • holding pattern
  • dating advice

Sponsors

Boll & Branch, Quince

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