The Poly Pile On, Online Trolls & SBS Insight

About this episode

The episode discusses the challenges of public scrutiny in relationships after appearing on SBS's Insight, focusing on themes of judgment and personal processing of criticism.

In this episode, we reflect on what it has been like to take our relationship into the public eye after appearing on SBS’s Insight , where we spoke about jealousy, envy, and compersion. What followed was a flood of online commentary, much of it critical. We unpack what it feels like to have our relationship reduced to a two-minute clip and judged at scale, and we explore why people feel so certain in their opinions about something they don’t fully understand. We explore how judgment is a natural human response, but how the way it’s expressed matters, and how much of what people say is actually a reflection of their own fears, experiences, or conditioning around relationships. We also share how we each process criticism differently, one of us feeling largely unaffected, the other needing to work through it more consciously. Through it all, we come back to what grounds us, our relationship, our values, and our sense of self, and why continuing to have these conversations publicly still feels important, even when it invites criticism. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack | Youtube | Retreat This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers…

People in this episode

Host: Evolving Love Project

Topics covered

• public relationships
• online criticism
• jealousy
• compersion
• self-reflection
• human judgment

Keywords

• public scrutiny
• jealousy
• compersion
• online trolls
• relationship dynamics
• self-reflection

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: SBS

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