About this episode

This episode explores how self-sabotaging behaviors can ruin relationships and offers insights on building secure connections.

You don’t want to sabotage your relationships… but some of your habits are doing it for you. Do you start arguments from nowhere, pull back to see if they’ll chase you, or make people “prove” they won’t leave—then feel rejected when they get tired? In this eye-opening episode of Fix Your Relationships, we'll explore a sneaky form of self-sabotage: Testing people to prove they’ll leave. Join me in calling out the subtle tests we run in relationships to protect ourselves from pain, and how those tests quietly sabotage the very love we’re praying for. If you're truly ready to stop running people through emotional obstacle courses and start building real, secure connection, this episode is your mirror. RESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE: MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE: Join Dr. Tiff for this upcoming LIVE event designed for women who are tired of over-performing in their romantic relationships. As part of the Working Lunch Series, MORE LOVE, LESS HUSTLE will help you unpack the patterns that keep you hustling for love, explore why you default to fixing, proving, & over-performing, and guide you through the simple inner-work needed to call in the love you deserve. To register and view…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Tiffanie Henry

Topics covered

• self-sabotage
• relationships
• emotional tests
• connection
• love

Keywords

• self-sabotage
• relationships
• emotional tests
• love
• connection

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