About this episode

Dr. Tiff discusses how the tendency to be 'the fixer' can lead to overwhelm and resentment, encouraging listeners to mind their own business for better self-care.

You're overwhelmed, overworked, and if we're really being honest — maybe a little resentful. But you're also the first to raise your hand when something needs to be fixed. This week's episode is for my fixers. My over-functioners. The ones who see a problem and their spirit says "I got it" before anyone even asks. I want you to know that I see you, babes. You've become the event planner, the therapist, the Uber driver, the financier — the one everybody depends on because they know you'll handle it. But I also see you complaining about being overwhelmed. But when a gap appears? I also see you running to the front of the first to fill it. In this episode, Dr. Tiff gets honest about something we don't talk about enough: Some of your overwhelm is not just what's being put on you. Some of it is what you volunteer for. We dig into: The difference between support ("I'm here with you") and the take-over spirit ("Step aside, let me handle it") How your constant fixing is training people not to grow — and why that's not love, it's a pattern The ways you're co-authoring the exhaustion you keep complaining about Why Psalm 46:10 is God's gentle reminder that you are not Him — and you can sit…

People in this episode

Host: Dr. Tiffanie Henry

Topics covered

• overwhelm
• fixing
• boundaries
• self-care
• personal growth

Keywords

• over-functioning
• support
• take-over spirit
• exhaustion
• self-sabotage

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Psalm 46:10

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