Finally Dating a Good Guy but Feeling Anxious

About this episode

The episode discusses the challenges of feeling anxious in a healthy relationship and how to navigate those feelings.

In this episode, we explore what happens when you finally meet a good, emotionally available man, but your anxious attachment starts to panic. We talk about why healthy love can feel unsafe when you’re used to chaos, inconsistency, or having to prove your worth in relationships. You’ll learn how to recognize when your nervous system is reacting to safety as unfamiliar, and how to start soothing that part of you that expects love to be hard. This conversation also touches on the difference between genuine connection and emotional intensity, and how to stay grounded when you want to run, overthink, or self-sabotage. Enjoy this episode 🙏🏼. Go Deeper into you Inner Work Journey Join the  Becoming Secure women’s membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡 30+ guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Individualized coaching from Johanna learn more here 💐

People in this episode

Host: Johanna Adriaansen

Topics covered

• anxious attachment
• healthy relationships
• emotional availability
• nervous system
• self-sabotage
• inner work

Keywords

• anxious attachment
• healthy love
• emotional intensity
• self-soothing
• relationship anxiety
• somatic practices

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Becoming Secure

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