Big feelings again? Let’s not rush to “regulate"

About this episode

The episode discusses the pressures of self-regulation and how to navigate big feelings with compassion.

Ever found yourself naming your child’s (or partner’s, or your own) big feelings and then thinking, “Okay, so why aren’t we calm yet?” Nope, it's not just you. In this episode, we chat about why “self-regulation” has started to feel like a pressure-filled performance metric, rather than the compassionate tool it’s meant to be. How do we sit with the discomfort? When should we question our timelines for “getting over it”? This is what it looks like in real life: Messy, human and very much still a work in progress. Join us in the grey. Related links: Article: " Emotional regulation isn’t about staying calm. It’s about this " ✨ Ready to be a little kinder to yourself? Download our free 5-day self-compassion challenge —with daily prompts, gentle exercises and tools to help you stop the spiral of self-criticism and start speaking to yourself like a friend.

People in this episode

Host: Mums At The Table

Topics covered

• self-regulation
• emotional regulation
• big feelings
• compassion
• discomfort
• mental health

Keywords

• self-regulation
• emotional regulation
• big feelings
• compassion
• mental health
• discomfort
• self-criticism

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