Who's helping who? When support feels like an accusation

About this episode

This episode explores the complexities of support and how well-meaning advice can sometimes feel judgmental.

Ever had someone’s well-meaning advice leave you feeling more judged than helped? Or maybe you’ve been on the other side—tried to help someone and ended up feeling like your “support” wasn’t received the way you meant it? In this episode of Life in the Grey, we explore something we call “presumptuous care”, when help comes with assumptions, expectations or even unintended guilt. Related links: Article: “ The quiet power of helping less ” ✨ Ready to be a little kinder to yourself? Download our free 5-day self-compassion challenge —with daily prompts, gentle exercises and tools to help you stop the spiral of self-criticism and start speaking to yourself like a friend.

Topics covered

• support
• judgment
• presumptuous care
• self-compassion
• helping others

Keywords

• support
• advice
• judgment
• self-compassion
• helping others
• presumptuous care

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